In the past I used to swallow my pride and feelings and just do what it takes to make things 'better' for those around me , without really thinking about myself and how i feel about a certain something. I used to be told..if something I am doing is 'hurting' someone then there must be something wrong about it and so I should stop and think about the other persons feelings instead of my own. But what about myself and how I feel? should I go on through life pleasing other people at all times and totaly ignoring my own pleasure? What if you're doing something that you dont consider as a 'bad thing' but others come and tell you that its bad and its hurting them. Why can't I be accepted for who I already am and appreciate the things that I do which doesnt necessarily have to be what they want me to do.
I am sure it must be confusing to some of you..but It's just something thats frustrating me a bit and I cant help but feel repressed and forced to be something that I am not.
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6 comments:
this is very complicated yet very interesting. I think a good person or atleast a person who is nice enough can always balance happily without hurting no one not even them... you can always tell people in a nice way what you think without them being hurt. There are many examples and what i'm saying may not apply to all situations but i highly value the philosophy of 'words strenght'... maybe you can give an example so that our comments can be rellevent.
Thanks naj for your input. I am afraid if i give out examples then its all going to turn into a way too personal entry and i decided not to get too personal on this blog.
as u mentioned its quite complicated cause I am torn between two .. pleasing myself or pleasing others..cause in some cases there are just no middle grounds.
i'm the kind of guy who doesn't give a rats @$$ about others! if they're going to be upset about something that is hardly worth it, thats their problem not mine thanks! a friend used to tell me i should put others first, but dude, no one is more important than you! we live in a world where you gotta take care of yourself and survive on your own, putting others first just makes you one of those sad 'nice' sissies!
of course i dont have many friends now and 3 of my girls have left me.. but i dont care as long as im happy man!
PS. dude i like yo layout!
sometimes i do feel this way, and apologize for things that i don't see as wrong. like saying sorry for being rude when i am not. and you know what it didn't do me any harm to say sorry, or made me less of a human-being. sometimes we do things without knowing how hurtful they are to others, cause we only looking at them from our point of view. and believe me whoever comes to you and say that you did or said something wrong is someone who really cares about you, and wants you to be a better person. its better than having someone who will pretend that everything is ok when deep inside he/she hates your guts!
so i make sense?
I'm not sure I follow..
Whether you are right or wrong, aren't you feeling bad you upset them? Or am I the only one who feels that ppl's feelings are more important than my opinions :os
oo..suddenly many anonymous comments.
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anonymous 1 : well I cant do that , I care about others feelings the same way i care about my own.. I dont think that makes me a sissy , just human. Thank you for dropping by..and your compliment regarding my layout. :)
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Balqis : very nicely said. I agree.
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anonymous 2 : yes..u make perfect sense , though sometimes i think people can care too much without thinking about the other persons feelings regarding some things. thanks for your advise and stopping by.
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sam : I might feel bad about them being upset , but I also feel that they sometimes ask too much of me. people's feelings are important as u said..but you cant just totaly ignore your own..cause it will only lead to unhappiness.
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thanks all for dropping by ..and it would be good to know who the anonymous people really are. ;)
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