I watched last Wednesday 'Save the last dance' for the second time. The first time I watched it back in 2000 I remember really enjoying it , maybe it was cause I really loved the music and since I was practically an airhead back then and just looked at things from the surface I guess I didn't really go into the details of the story nor think about it in depth. Anyways , watching it this time around got me a bit disturbed and quite annoyed cause I couldn't help but feel like the lead character just changed what she actually is and her whole style , just so that she can fit in and be 'cool' according to the standards of people who surrounded her.
It just got me thinking that there actually are people in real life who do that, who just forget who they are and go with the flow instead of just being themselves and staying true to what they actually believe in. I myself can never do that, nor did I ever even bother myself to 'fit in' even though most of the time I just felt like an outcast, especially in school cause I was very different than the rest, and even here In uni, I find myself a bit 'odd' cause I don't do the things that most do, such as smoking for instance (which btw is a huge shocker for most Jordanians here for some reason..and they end up giving me a look like I'm sick to actually not smoke... lol ) .
In the end of the day , I am really happy to be who I am , and I think that everyone else should just be themselves and make the people around them accept them for who they are , and not the image they project of themselves in order to fit in.
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9 comments:
I am not that good in analyzing people. But, I can find out when they are trying to pretend, because that can be easy noticeable.
Yeh, people around us do the same all the time. Myself I would like the people to get into the stuff I do, or I like. But, If you are not really into it, so dont show it.
Most of the time, the life around you is that effective, so kinda you will be forced!
this is interrrresting.. I do try to 'fit in' anywhere and everywhere i go. I know that my example is different but i just want to tell you that there are time when you just have TO adapt to the new environment. we all strive to fit in everywhere we go and being flexible is one of the ways people succeeed in life.
my example: not wearing abaya when am here in the states. They'd burn me alive with their evil eye. I do wear it SOMETIMES but this is when am in a car or where i know am safe, otherwise i just stick to the colors. There are many other examples/things i'd do in Oman but would never even think of doing/practicing it here.
how did she change herself? *confused*
actually the guy made her see what she is capable of, and she made him see that his loyalty was misplaced.
or maybe i need to watch the movie again?!!
Allured
lol @ the 'airhead' comment!
I get your point Nabhan, it did seem like she was forced to adapt to their norms rather than stick to her own. But she probably wouldn't have been able to survive in that black community if she hadn't. And in the end it seemed just like what she wanted all along... in the movie she's young, has not yet developed much of a sense of self and so her environment took over and did it for her.
I'm like you, I always fight 'fitting in'. In fact I think there's great pride to be taken in for individuality.
I watched the movie more than three or four times.. I even watched it this week. I don't see how the girl changed her self!!!! or you mean cuz she learned how to dance hip hop?
she is still the same, want to make her dream of dancing come true..
I am lost here Nabs...
Namika and Allured ..
well maybe it's just me then , cause I really felt like she had to adjust herself alot in oder to fit into the black community.
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Thanks to the rest who commented. :)
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Sometime we we try so hard, trying and wanting to fit in. I feel Im always out of track to fit in with Omani Women who look so elegant and Im so bare and my abaya is so simple and out of trend so to speak. Well thank God Im mix but at times it is hard to be mix as you seem not to be ong in certain segment and you wish you can fit in..Al Hamdullah growing up gives you diffirent view in life...I guess you get saved by the growing up...
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